August 19, Jhapa. He got here to find out about his father’s loss of life at 11 pm when a neighbor from Maiti village posted it on Facebook round 7 am. As quickly as she got here to know, she referred to as the neighbor and mentioned, ‘I may even come to the ghat.
But Sita Dhungna Vishwakarma, who married an inter-caste, couldn’t see her father’s face. On receiving the information of the daughter’s arrival, the relations returned residence quickly after the final rites.
Sita, joint secretary of All Nepal Women’s Association Jhapa, a ladies’s group of CPN-UML, who had separated from her household to marry Vishwakarma, didn’t get the ashes when she requested for her father’s ashes. She mentioned, “I was coming to Kankai Ghat. I was told to keep it even if it is a little grey. It has washed away.”
Sita, who married Chhavilal BK, a member of the present Jhapa district of UML in December 2057 BS, has since been rejected by her household. After Sita’s marriage, her family members referred to as her a Brahmin and made her cry by blowing the Ekohoro conch.
Sita has been residing in her personal home since her mom’s father refused to take a seat together with her. On the thirteenth day of mourning, she mentioned on Saturday, “Because I married a Dalit, I cried while I was alive. Even after my father’s death, I was not allowed to cry.”
Sita’s father Dharmanand Dhungana died 13 days in the past on the age of 93. Bhim Prasad Dhungana, principal of Damak Suryodaya Basic School, and Laxmi Prasad Dhungana, a public decrease secondary college instructor, are Sita’s brothers. Sita says that the brothers refused to stay collectively.
“It is difficult to change the behavior of the state, no matter how much the ruling elite and upper classes regard the Shudras as slaves of the night and those who consider themselves to be masters,” he mentioned.
While he was in Kiriya, a number of UML leaders got here to fulfill him and despatched letters of condolence. Everyone mentioned, ‘Injustice has been completed to you.’ “But no one can say that we will make arrangements for your family’s accommodation. Everyone has left my house without drinking water,” mentioned Sita angrily. “Now tell me, what if the change is only on paper?”
Sita’s husband Chhavi Lal Vishwakarma says that nobody can struggle such points alone. “We tried laborious to create an surroundings the place all of the relations may sit and work collectively, however that was not potential. We tried to not meet,’ he says.